Blog
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Wrecking Your Own Body to Be Recognised
Everyone calls you selfless, and you give until nothing is left. Here is why recognition matters so much to you, and how such help can wreck an addict's recovery.
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I Can’t Do This, and That Is Where It Starts
Saying “I can’t do this” sounds like giving up. In recovery it is where something new begins: what you deny is not yourself but the belief you can solve this yourself.
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I Was Done To: The Sentence Fear Leaves Behind
When criticised, all you can think of is hitting back: that is fear at work. A child left without proper care grows up afraid and may frighten others without meaning to.
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Small Wisdom Will Not Solve a Life
You try hard to live right, yet the same situation keeps coming back. Here is why the small wisdom that sizes things up as profit or loss cannot untangle a life.
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Then What Is There for Pain in the Mind?
You feel low, so you go shopping; your child gives you grief, so you pour a drink. This is how addiction works: it looks outside for relief from the pain inside.
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One Drink, and You Cannot Hear It
All day a voice you barely notice calls you a fool, and one drink shuts it off. The same verdict on yourself keeps the drink in hand and stops God's love getting in.
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The Drink Is Not the Idol. The Self Is.
As a child you said it hurt and were told to be quiet, so you kept your feelings in until one drink let them out. Here is why addiction works like a painkiller.
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You Can’t Drag Anyone Into Loving Themselves
Someone close to you keeps running themselves down, and you want to step in. Trust has to come before any suggestion, and you cannot practise self-love for them.
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Help Them Lift It and the Muscle Never Comes
Your teenager is struggling and you cannot just watch. But stepping in keeps them from building their own strength, and love pushed on them feels like an intrusion.
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They Were All Nice People. Nobody Starts Out Wanting to Kill.
We were all wounded, yet only some turn on others. Between a nice man and violence stand a wound of a certain size, anger nobody taught him to handle, and one hard day.